NULL mag Issue 06 10 I got Married

eZine lover (@eZine)

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null magazine

 · 26 Dec 2020

  

 

 
   not actually married :) its a metaphor. what i really mean is that i 
   became something like a co-sysop for Agency BBS to help Avon upgrade 
   and do some new stuff on Agency BBS. 

   actually, i asked him to :) but honestly i didn't expect what came 
   after... which is good in some way, but also frustrating some times. 

   i write code as a hobby, i am not a programmer and i used to write 
   things as i want to be or as i undestand them. the thing is that not 
   everyone else is sharing the same "view" of things, specially in 
   programs, scripts, mods etc. what i think is "easy" or "well 
   explained" for some other it may seem "confusing". the thing is, that 
   both of us/them, we may have right. each brain works different, each 
   of us have different experiences, we use different OS, programs etc. 
   so when i started writing stuff for Agency and showed them to Avon, 
   honestly, some times i got disappointed. not for/from Avon, but for 
   me. 

   Avon has a different type of how he looks things. he can "see" things 
   that i couldn't or i thought there were "obvious". obvious perhaps for 
   me, but not for others. i couldn't argue with what avon was saying, 
   cause i knew, at a first glance of his arguments, that he was "right" 
   and i was "wrong". so... avon - xqtr, 1 - 0. 

   on the other hand, my approach is always the "simplest" one... i try 
   to keep things as easy and not add too many features from the 
   beginning of things. avon is the opposite, he is a "perfectionist", 
   when you show him a mod/script, he will tell you things to add, that 
   in the end, the script will appear as a full blown app. :) so in this 
   case, i was the one, who was "pressing a brake" and told him, that we 
   should keep things more simple. so avon - xqtr, 0 - 1. 

   the total score is 1 - 1... who will win? actually both of us. i know 
   i did learn many things from this "marriage". the most important 
   lesson for me is that, we/i always have to ask others, on how they see 
   things. our view, is not always the "right" one, but we can't see it 
   if we don't ask for another opinion. being close minded and doing only 
   what we like, at the end will alienate us, from others. trusting 
   another person and asking for his opinion is a very good step, for our 
   selves and for making/building a relationship strong. 

   so being a co-sysop is a trust learning lesson for both parts. it also 
   gives you a complete different perspective on how others see your work 
   or even how you think others may see your work, which is good. 
   learning stuff for your self is always good, even if some of them 
   displease us. co-sysoping brings more knowledge to both parts, as info 
   is exchanged between both parts. i learned to use the new Mystic DOS 
   shell, in a very efficient way and also figure out some quirks of it. 
   i manage my system locally, but through this experience now i am also 
   capable of managing it 100% remotely. i also figured that people 
   trying to install my mods on windows machines, have issues with the 
   ansis :( sorry for that guys... from now on, i will always save them 
   in crlf format. 

   so... yep... being a co-sysop brings knowledge, both technical and 
   psychological. i think the bbs scene right now, needs more 
   co-operations in the bbs or software level. we get used to work all 
   alone and it may have some advantages in some cases but it also has 
   its drawbacks. at least you should try it once, not only as a co-sysop 
   but as a helper in any project you can. 

   the bad thing from this "marriage" is that now, i always want to ask 
   avon first for his opinion on any of my mods, cause now i have trust 
   issues for my self... ok... got to stop now, cause i think this 
   article became to "gay" for my taste... hahahahaha...